The Fear of Asking Out a Girl

She was pretty, but not just any pretty, the most beautiful girl I knew. Her smile could stop a storm dead in its tracks, her gentleness could calm a rabid dog into a house pet, and her beauty was so great that it intimidated the strongest of men to their core. Yet I couldn't resist her. I did everything I could to try to get closer to her. Have a conversation, assist her with her work, all the while trying to maintain an authentic relationship.

There's no perfect time to ask out someone but when I tried the only words I could muster up were, "Have a great day." I immediately regretted my cowardice. I can't go on my whole life being afraid of what I've never experienced. I'm 26 years old and still have never been in a long term relationship. I've been on dates, liked girls before in the past, and even have gotten phone numbers without asking. I was too afraid to call them though. Always dealing with this deep fear that I would disappoint whoever I started dating, because I was scared. But I couldn't live like this forever. I want a family one day, I want to get married, how can that even happen if I can't ask someone on a date? So I did what I never did before. I turned back around and did the unspeakable.

"Hey I think you're really beautiful and I really enjoy chatting with you, would you like to go out and get coffee sometime?" I could have worded that a hundred times better but I had no time to practice just a red, beating heart to bear on my sleeve. The wait for an answer felt like an eternity although it could have only been seconds long. "Am I ready for rejection?" "Is this gonna make things weird at work?" "Is she already dating someone?" & lastly "Did she answer already?" I would have no idea because too many thoughts were spilling out of my brain that they had clogged my ears from hearing an answer. Her lips opened, "Sure I would love to. Here's my number." Is she for real? She's choosing to go on a date with me? If I was victorious in this small venture, what other areas of life have I been avoiding because of doubt?

I walked out of that warehouse like a new man. Like I had finally won the war that had been fought inside my head for years. Just when I was ready to surrender we stormed the castle to find out the enemy never existed in the first place. Yes I would get to go on a date with an out of this world girl but more importantly that day fear was dethroned and courage became king. 

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